Quite honestly, I’m super tired of conversations revolving around what people are not eating.
“17 days of no sugar” (as I’m on my second chocolate tart)
“I’ve given up gluten” (where's my toasted sour dough bread with loads of butter?)
“It’s my 1 year anniversary of turning vegan” (are we celebrating that now?)
“No carbs for me please” (no rice? what do I eat my curry with then?)
Imagine going for a meal with one of these people (I hope my vegetarian-turned-vegan-off-gluten friends aren’t reading this). I’ve learned the hard way to not get annoyed though, by pretending that I’m at the table by myself. In fact I’ve now made it a fun activity by ordering all the ‘wrong’ things when I’m with the people eating ‘right’.
I have to say that, having grown up with parents with healthy habits (more dad than mom), such as eating early, consuming balanced, mostly vegetarian meals, lectures at the table when we kids would refuse to eat something that didn’t taste good but was good for us … you get the gist, I’ve been brainwashed into eating right most of the time.
‘Most of the time’ is the key phrase here. There was the usual cheating with deep fried foods, desserts (Bengali sweets are healthy is what we believed) etc. Eating out was never healthy - you ate what you desired without a second thought. Ice-cream sundaes and Flury’s cakes were not frowned upon. Binge eating happened at the big festivals and birthdays. My parents lived fairly healthy and long lives until almost the end.
The other day this girl, who’s a regular at the cafe and who is always careful about what she eats, said to me.
“I’ve been fantasising about your carrot pineapple cake for weeks now,” she said.
“So what’s stopping you from eating it?” I asked.
It was the calories, the sugar, the cream cheese frosting that looked so decadent.
I thought about it for a second, wanting to somehow convince her to eat it.
“Well,” I started off saying. “I’m not going to push you to order it but if you do decide to, it’s very important that you eat it with a 100% pleasure and 0% guilt. Otherwise it just won’t taste good.”
She laughed and asked if I would sit with her while she ate it. It may sound like a strange request but I totally got it. Pretending however, to not have got it, I looked at her questioningly.
“If you sit with me, it’ll be a constant reminder of what you just said about eating without guilt,” she said to me.
“How about I join you with a slice of my own?” I asked, suddenly wanting cake.
Her eyes lit up. “That would be awesome!”
A second later she added, “I’m paying for your slice too.”
I laughed and asked her why she would do that.
“You’re eating that cake to help me enjoy my slice more. It’s only fair that it should be my treat. I absolutely insist.”
So we ordered an extremely generous slice of cake each and savoured each bite together.
“I’ll never forget this cake,” she said as she licked her spoon. “It’s been a while since I ate dessert without guilt.”
“Tastes a lot better, doesn’t it?” It was a rhetorical question of course. The pleasure on her face was telling me all.
While writing this, I got really hungry and decided to treat myself to a bacon and cheese frittata.
Yeah I know it’ll kill me. Just like living will.
